When you’re tempted to start talking negatively about someone/thing you don’t like, instead say something nice to/about someone you do.
When you’re tempted to get frustrated with someone for something they did, ask yourself what their struggle might be that lead them to do that.
When you’re tempted to think you aren’t enough, think of something you do well, or something positive you offer. If you struggle to, ask someone you trust.
When you’re tempted to put yourself down, pretend you’re talking about your best friend and see if it changes the narrative.
When you’re tempted to keep falsely smiling and saying “everything’s fine” when it’s not, think about how someone else might benefit from hearing your story.
When you’re tempted to focus on those you think don’t care, instead, make a list of people who do – even if they’re not people you know in real life (spoonie online family totally counts!).
When you’re tempted to feel guilty because of your symptoms or illness limitations, gently remind yourself (and anyone else who may need reminding) that you did not choose to have this illness, and you’re doing the best you can with what you have.
When you’re tempted to think you don’t matter, list three (or more!) nice things you’ve done for someone recently (even if they’re tiny things). Those things made a difference to someone – often we don’t realize how big of a difference the smallest kind actions can make.
When you’re tempted to think there’s no hope, remember that you’ve been here, or somewhere similar, before, and you got through it.
When you’re tempted to compare yourself to others and feel less significant, remember, someone else is looking at you and thinking they wish they were as strong and motivating and inspiring as you.
And finally, when you’re tempted to give up on your dreams….